After a few weeks of hibernation, daughter has been out and about this week. Sadly, in ways this is irritating. I am used to my day being spent uninterrupted unless a customer comes up. Just today she has made 5 or 6 trips down the hill. Yes, it’s good. I know she’s alive and out. She hasn’t been irritating to be around these days–there are days when something just isn’t right about her. I don’t like being around her those days. Maybe that is where her daughter gets the idea she is back on drugs. I think it is when she takes the actual prescribed dosage of one of her psych meds.
So, learned today thru mom that grand’daughter had taken phone to school Her dad and I both had asked her to not do that. When she came in I had a long hard talk with her, along with her mom. I told Ana that using her mom for the things she wanted that I couldn’t or wouldn’t provide was wrong and I was tired of watching it. She could choose to try and have an relationship with mom and benefit from what mom would do or stop using mom. If she chose to sever contact with her mom then she had to live by rules and not run to mom or dad when things didn’t go to suit her.
There was much more said…but that was the gist of things. Ana said she liked things they way they were and when I questioned her on what that was she said she really didn’t want anything to do with her mom. Then I reiterated that she needed to stop using and manipulating her mom.
I could see the pain that crossed Stacie’s face. I know Stacie has a lot of work to do on herself, but she still hurts and does love her kids as much as she is capable of loving them. My heart hurts for her and I pointed out to Ana that her mom does love her and all the blah, blah, blah that goes on in those types of confrontations.
So, whether or not this truth has set Ana free or Stacie free or neither of them…it’s out there and Stacie took it quite calmly. Surprisingly.